Saturday, November 21, 2009

Leaving Love Lost

There are about a million ways a girl could get her heart broken nowadays and none of the effects are very pretty – ice cream sales go up and waistlines follow, chick flicks flickering through gobs of waterproof mascara. It’s not nice.

Of course, there are those relationships we don’t feel sad about losing. The ones where we see him six months down the road and feel bad for him for losing you. This is the scenario I find myself in more often than not yet it’s the lack of meaningful relationships that has kept me sane. Finally, I have one that means the world to me and it’s like my entire world has crashed down once it’s over!

They say the best way to shrug off the past is to change something about your present. Cut the long hair that he loved, take a different route to work so you don’t pass his house, stop creeping his Facebook, no matter how strong the urge may be!

What makes a relationship fail anyway? You were crazy about each other in the beginning! I suppose you don’t see a person’s faults at first..

In the beginning, he is not showing you his negative traits. He knows what they are and he is putting on his best behavior to potentially have you think that he is a wonderful human being so you will fall in love (or into bed) with him!

In the beginning, if you are looking to find love, you will only see the good in him. You will see the traits that you want to see because those are what you are looking for. This only hurts women in the long run. As soon as you have the love you were looking for, you won’t need to look at him through rose coloured glasses anymore and his faults will become apparent to you. Tada!

This leads me to conclude that if you are looking for love, you will eventually find reality. If you are looking for reality, you will eventually find love.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Faking It

So many women nowadays have forgone true style for fake fashion!

They fake their hair, their nails, their breasts, they fake friends, orgasms, and finally their designers.

We all know a girl (or several girls) sporting counterfeit luxury goods. The prime offenders; Chanel and Louis Vuitton. I remember two years ago, being so sick of seeing fake Chanel anything (bags, wallets, jewellery, and the like..) and just when I thought fake fashion was on it's way out, I'm bombarded with more falsies in my face!

I'm sure they do this because they assume that no one will know the difference. However, anyone who's into fashion enough to care that you're wearing designer duds in the first place is most likely into it enough to know the difference between a real and a fake!

Remember on Sex and the City when Samantha Jones sported a fake Fendi to a party at the Playboy Mansion? It was lost and she accused a bunny of stealing it. She told them to look inside so they would see 'made in China' on the tag. The bunny opened it up and exclaimed, "See? Fendi!" Imagine Samantha's embarassment!!

The thing about wearing a fake is that even if no one else detects your falsehood, YOU know you're wearing a fake. It doesn't have the same allure as a real designer piece. You don't feel the same 'je ne sais quoi'!!

It isn't very hard to tell the difference between a real and a fake. Most are blatantly obvious while some are almost uncanny to the original. Quality is usually the top indicator and usually there is a very important detail missing. Often the colour scheme will be off a little bit or the design will look somewhat "off". A fake bag will often have PVC trim instead of genuine leather. Also, the logo will usually be slightly different, often backwards or upside down. If you want to know if something you're buying is genuine, call the retailer and find out the original price. Most designer labels never have wholesale, factory rejects, clearance or discounts!! If you want to be absolutely sure, buy it from the designer store itself!

If you’re looking to buy a fake, just consider that your $50 deal comes at a much higher cost. Child labor, sweatshops, and human trafficking are only a few of the social costs of the black market, and a few of the most obvious reasons fakes are never in fashion. It’s easy to overlook the fact that your cheap knock-off comes at the expense of a designer’s intellectual property (who cares if Kate Spade isn’t earning your money?), but that’s not the only thing sacrificed in your pursuit of a deal.

Child labor and atrocious working conditions, not just for the bag but its parts (fake leather, lead-laden metals, labels, etc.), are high costs to pay. And what about the effect fakes have on the economy? In the United States alone, there are 750,000 jobs lost to stealing intellectual property! For more info, check out Harper's Bazaar; Fakes Are Never In Fashion

Don’t get me wrong, there are luxury manufacturers who have taken advantage of cheap outsourced labor too! In doing this they have lowered the quality of their goods while raising prices, and committed other social sins. It’s not always public knowledge when luxury manufacturers are guilty of this, but keeping your wits about you will help in doing your part!

Many smaller scale labels do create designer inspired pieces. They look like part of a current designer collection but are not claiming to be the designer label itself. I do believe these are respectable items to wear as they wreak less havoc on your wallet. They are usually decribed as "inspired by" and are usually an ode to a designer as opposed to stealing their designs completely.

Fake fashion is about as classy as fake nails or fake breasts.

The only forgivable fashion fake is fur!

Sunday, November 8, 2009

The Gospel According To Coco Chanel

Life Lessons from the World's Most Elegant Woman..

"Delving into the long extraordinary life of renowned french fashion designer Coco Chanel, Karen Karbo has written a new kind of book, exploring Chanel's philosphy on a range of universal themes - from style to passion, from money and success, to femininity and living life on your own terms.

'The Gospel According to Coco Chanel' is a captivating, offbeat look at style, celebrity, and self invention - all held together in Karen Karbo's droll Chanel style commentary and culled from an examination of Chanel's difficult childhood and triumphant adulthood, passionate love affairs, career choices, habits, eccentricities, and personal philosophies. Weaving Chanel's life story into chapter themes that subtly convey life lessons, and with Chelsey McLaren's charming illustrations, it will leave the reader utterly entranced with, and inspired by, Chanel's amazing individuality, confidence, and determination."

I have read this book and I definitely agree that it's a must have for anyone passionate about fashion and creativity. The book is incredibly inspiring and is wonderful to help you understand many things influential in the fashion of today. Read this book and then let me know what you think!!

How has Coco Chanel influenced what you wear?